Wheeler Wonders

We have finite control in this life.

This realization in itself is freeing.

We cannot control how the world operates, who speaks to us harshly, when our car breaks down, when we lose those close to us.

Control is simply something that is out of our grasp.

However, us as human beings do have control over something ten times stronger than any of these ungovernable situations.

Our own emotions.

The way we choose to respond to our random, tragic, and unexpected state of affairs equates to our own personal happiness.

Individuals are more than capable of being their own worst antagonist. Our mind can create the reality of the most beautiful life we could ever imagine. Filled with love, acceptance, and endless grace. Its counterpart is quite literally Hell. Anger, bitterness, cynicism, apathy, untrusting tendencies. These are just a few examples of a life that we are capable of creating all by ourselves.

These ideas can be explored in depth within the book “The Four Agreements” by Don Miguel Ruiz, which I recommend everyone to read.

The power is ours.

The choice whether a situation negativity or positively impacts us belongs to the person placed in said predicament. Are we forever crushed underneath the weight of words and actions which are totally out of our control?

To be clear, this is not a call to be ignorantly blind or numb to devastating tragedies.

This would make us empty.

I am suggesting quite the opposite. To be able to feel and process misfortune is one of the most impactful tools we have. The beauty is being able to have complete control of our ship during these storms.

Process Pain. Feel Grief. Experience sadness.

However, do not let it dictate the direction of your entire life.

Ironically, being one on one with disaster is where this mindset is able to grow and become stronger.

Like a child learning to walk, we all must crawl first. Crawling everyday through life with this new mentality will be a struggle. It will take deliberate practice and conscious repetition in the face of evil. We will stumble, tumble, and fall. This is to be expected and encouraged.

However, the child does not crawl forever. With support from their ken and loved ones, the child eventually gets to their feet.

The shock and surprise is visible on everyones face when they finally get to witness such a life changing event. And the child, seeming to only practice crawling, gets to their feet for the first time. Now the child has an entirely new view of their own world. Not just by being vertical, but now being able to explore places where they have not been able to before.

This is how we must treat our new perspective.

We must crawl. We must practice.

The child sees the world through a new perspective.

We start to see the world through a new perspective.

We create our own reality.

The World is ours.